Being proud of your body, being in harmony with yourself… A lot of “normal” or “perfect” people could tell you this kind of weird thoughts. It is always easier to be proud of your body and love yourself when you look like the perfect model of your era: high, slim and beautiful for women. High, fit and beautiful for men. That’s right, nowadays, we can work and make a lot of things to change some details… We can do sport du get slim or fit. But, we can also watch out our food.

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About me, for example, I could stop feeding myself, I will never be as slim as Kendall Jenner or Cindy Crawford. Despite doing sport everyday, diets and all my desires, I will stay curvy. With strong breast, wide inches, big bottom. Because, that’s what I am. I am a simple curvy woman.

So, why does the nowadays society force people to be twins ? Whereas advertisements and brands tell you to stay yourself. Then, why are androgyne, flat and almost dead women the only models ? A woman is normally supposed to be shiny and healthy. Finally, why do you refuse your body as it is, tall or small ? Slim or curvy ? You are unique. You are yourself. So, be proud of your body ! And love yourself.

I know, it is an easy speech. But, nothing would change your bones, your size and your morphology. Miracles doesn’t exist, magical operations neither. Only your mind, your brain, can make you accept who you really are.

Time will be your friend: days, months, years… However, you will be fine. You can manage it. For some of you, you need to find open-minded people. For others, living without any judgement. Don’t let you break by “perfect” pictures. Because, nobody is perfect. You just have to live happily with yourself. You need to believe in yourself, to be surrounded by open-minded people who love you. And finally, always remember that you are unique.

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Even if it’s often a taboo topic, having a satisfying and a good sex life will often boost your quality of life.

Sexual activities will most of the times help you to feel more relaxed about your life, and relieve any pain you may have.

But for having a good sex life, you need to have a good libido. They go hand in hand, like peanut butter and chocolate. So how to improve your libido ?

Here are 4 tips you must keep in mind to improve considerably your libido.

1 – Watch out your Blood Sugar

Is there a link between card intake and your sex drive ?

Yes.

Carb intake can have a direct impact on your sex drive… and also on your performance.

So what can you do about it ?

Just limit high glycemic food. It is known that high blood sugar lowers your sexual interest, as your brain already triggers its reward mechanism with the absorption of this kind of food.

Your libido will be better if your blood sugar levels are stable

2 – Get a Better Mood

Most people have some troubles to come back from their work and to be immediately ready for sexual activities.

So relax and try to improve your mood by putting yourself in a better state of mind.

It will help you a lot to improve your libido and your sexual performances.

3 – Get closer to your partner

Just know your partner very well and tell him what kind of things you would like to do with him

The more desired feelings, sensations and actions you will share together, the better your relationship will be.

Just don’t be shy and be very open to talk about anything with your partner. If you want to try something new with, just tell him. It is always better to talk, because if you don’t, you will be frustrated over time

4 – Have more Energy

Sometimes, people feel better to have sex during the morning simply because they feel more energized and less tired.

But nothing can stop you from taking some rest during the day.

Just a little 10-minute nap can help you to boost your energy levels and to feel better than before for having sex.

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Not every relationship is perfect, and they shouldn’t be all the time because no one is perfect. However, the strongest of couples know how to keep their relationship going strong. They know how to get through the ups and downs and keep their relationship healthy and happy. Here are some tips on how to keep your relationship healthy and happy.

1 – Keep the Communication Open

Being in a good relationship means always communicating with each other. Always being open and honest with your partner will help keep your relationship strong, healthy, and happy for a long time. If you want to remain with your partner for as long as you can and should be together, you should always remember to tell them everything that is on your mind and keep nothing from them. By doing this, you will enhance the trust in the relationship. Trust goes a long way in a relationship. If you lose that trust, it is hard to gain it back. This is why, in order to keep your partner and yourself happy in your relationship, you must always be open and honest with each other.

2 – Remember the Small Stuff

Don’t forget your manners. You don’t want to just use manners for those special houseguests that come to visit you. Why not show some manners to your spouse as well? Always say please and thank you when you should and offer to get your spouse a drink or something to eat. Once they see you showing them respect, they will treat you the same way. You know the saying, “treat others as you would want to be treated.” This saying isn’t just true for friends and other family members, but it holds true for your partner in life as well. It doesn’t matter if you have been together for five years or even 25 years. You still want to show them manners no matter how long you two have been together.

3 – Have Sex Often

One of the best ways to keep your relationship healthy and happy is to have sex with your partner as often as you can. If you need to have a few quickies here and there because of your busy lifestyle, so be it. If you are both satisfied with each other, your relationship will be healthy and happy for as long as you are together.

4 – Laugh Together Often

Making each other laugh as often as you both can is a great way to keep your relationship healthy and happy. If your partner makes you laugh, great. If you make them laugh a lot, even better! Laughing together will make you both happy and being happy in your relationship is what makes it a healthy and a strong one.

Using the above tips and more is guaranteed to make you have a healthy and happy relationship. Everyone wants to get along with their partner for as long as they are together, and the tips above will help guarantee that you will both be happy in your relationship.

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When it comes to being in a relationship, open and honest communication is very important to keep the relationship healthy and going strong. If you live together but lie to your partner every chance you get or ignore him or her, disaster is heading your way. Everyone wants to be in a healthy and strong relationship, so remember, if you want to keep yours going, keep the following tips in mind.

1 – Find the Right Time

Is something bothering you and you need to let your partner know about it? If you have something nagging at you constantly and need to get it off your chest to your partner, you should find the right time to talk first. This means making sure either of you are not busy or in a hurry. You also want to make sure either of you are distracted by anything else so as to be able to sit down and talk to each other without having anything stopping you from talking and without having anything stopping them from listening. If you have to schedule a time to talk to them, this would be better to do than to have to rush around and not get the results you are looking for.

2 – Talk Face-to-Face

If you have something serious to discuss with your partner, you will be better off doing so face-to-face rather than on the phone or in a text. Face-to-face is better for you both so you can both see each other’s honest reaction. Not only this, but having a serious discussion through email or by text on the phone could lead to a misunderstanding because one of you, or even both of you, could misunderstand what the other is trying to say.

3 – Avoid Attacking Your Partner

When you have something you want to say to your partner, and you get into an argument, avoid attacking your partner. You don’t want this to happen because you could unintentionally hurt your partner and they can put you in jail. They could also end up really hurt too and no one wants this to happen

4 – Stay Honest

Remaining honest with your partner during your conversation is always best. No one likes to be lied to. Think about it; you don’t like to be lied to so why would you want to put anyone else through that? Always stay honest with him or her and the relationship will keep going strong.

5 – Try the 48-Hour Rule

If you and your partner get into an argument and they have made you mad or the other way around, you should speak up. However, you can and should wait for at least 48-hours to allow it to blow over. If you are still upset after the 48-hours are up, then you should speak up and let them know how you feel. The waiting period can allow you both to cool off and get over it without the argument escalating into something dangerous for either of you.

Using the tips above will allow you to grow your relationship into something strong and beautiful.

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Relationship goals: there are different ways to trust someone in a relationship. One way you can trust someone is to actually trust them so much that you never look at their phone no matter how tempting it is to see if they have cheated or are cheating. However, that is one thing you shouldn’t do, even if they tell you it is alright. Unless of course, you have good reason to. That is one of the best goals to have in a relationship, the goal of trust. Here are a few more goals you will want to achieve to make your relationship healthy and happy.

1 – Not Freaking Out When You Don’t See Your Partner for a Few Days

One important goal to have, in order to have a great relationship is to not freak out like an idiot when you don’t see your significant other for a few days. You should be able to spend time apart without going crazy over it.

2 – Getting into a Fight and Knowing That Fight Doesn’t Mean You Need to Break Up This Time

You don’t have to break up every single time you have a fight. It doesn’t matter how big or small the fight was, you shouldn’t break up every time. If you do get into a fight with your partner, you should just go into another room or take a walk somewhere to get the space you need away for a few minutes to calm down. Once you are calm, you can talk to each other about what just happened and forgive each other.

3 – Going Out with Your Friends and They Don’t Text You Every Five Minutes Asking You Where You Are

You both should trust each other enough to where you can both go out with your friends separately every once in a while and not get a text every five minutes asking you where you have been, where you are, and when you are coming home. As long as you are trusted by your partner, this won’t happen and this is definitely a goal you want to achieve in a healthy and happy relationship.

4 – Not Feeling Too Needy

One thing is for sure these days, with technology rapidly advancing, there are different ways to look like you are too needy in a relationship. One way is feeling the need to text each other constantly. If you are in a trustworthy relationship, you won’t feel the need to text each other all day, every day. You definitely want to be able to achieve this goal because you don’t want to feel too needy or even look too needy for that matter.

5 – Can Be Around Your Partner’s Mother Without Feeling the Need to Run and Hide All The  Time

This is also a goal you will want to achieve when it comes to a healthy and happy relationship. You want to be able to get along with your partner’s mother and even their father so you can be happy in the relationship and so can they.

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Being in a long distance relationship may be hard for you both. Your family and friends may discourage you from being in one because they are afraid you will be hurt in the end. Although, you may feel lonely at times if you are in a long distance relationship, think of how much sweeter everything that closer distance relationships take for granted will be for you both. Things like holding hands, kissing, hugging, and just seeing each other after being apart for so long. Here are a few tips to make your long distance relationship work.

1 – Avoid Too Much Communication

Although you do want to talk to each other as often as you want, you shouldn’t communicate too much. The reason for this is because if you call your long distance partner too much throughout the day and night, you will look to them as you are too needy and possessive. The same goes for them calling you too much throughout the day, they will start to think of you as too needy and possessive. Coming off as too needy and possessive can end a relationship as fast as it even started. Try talking several times per week and that is it. This will give you something to look forward to anyway.

2 – Think of the Relationship as a Test

You can view your long distance relationship in a positive way instead of a bad way by thinking of it being a test for you both. Being in a long distance relationship can be hard and this is why many of them don’t last. However, viewing it as a test for you both to see how strong willed the two of you are is a good way to think of it.

3 – Set Some Ground Rules

By setting some ground rules from the beginning of the relationship, you will be managing your expectations of what you expect from the relationship. If you expect them to not date anyone else while the two of you are apart, make this clear in the beginning. This way they can decide if they want to move forward with the long distance relationship.

4 – Talk Dirty to Each Other

When you call them or they call you, why not talk a little sexy to them? This can also build up the momentum and make you both go crazy for seeing each other. Once you talk dirty to them and they do the same for you, you won’t be able to be apart for one more minute without going crazy.

5 – Do Things Together Virtually

This means when you are playing a game, ask them to play it with you online. When you are doing something fun, have them do the same thing at the same time. By doing this, you will both be laughing and having a blast “together” and won’t be able to wait much longer until you see each other again.

Using the tips above will help you keep your long distance relationship going strong for as long as you both decide to keep it going.

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When it comes to being in relationships with other people, you first need to learn to love yourself before you can love anyone else or be loved by anyone else. Too many times, we look in our reflection in the mirror and see our flaws before our beauty. You need to learn to turn that thinking around and see your beauty before your flaws. Just like how a mother loves her children unconditionally no matter what they look like and no matter what they do in their lives,. We too need to learn how to do this with ourselves without reservation. Here are some ways you can learn to love yourself so that you can love others and be loved too.

1 – Make Contact With Your Inner Self

Making contact with your inner self first means to pay more attention to your self-care. This can be done through meditation, self-reflection, contemplation, and experiencing a few minutes of quiet time for yourself every day. Once you learn how to do these things, you will be able to get in touch with your inner-self, learning to appreciate yourself and enjoy yourself more.

2 – Being Honest With Yourself Enough to Face Your Inner Obstacles and Resistance

One thing you need to do at one point in your life is to face your inner obstacles, or inner demons as they say, and face the resistance you have against yourself. You can do this by really being honest with yourself and facing your past by coming to terms with that past. Once you come to terms and be honest with yourself about the stress and anxiety from  your past, you can learn to release that stress and anxiety once and for all. Coming to terms with it is the first part of allowing it to be released. Let the releasing begin for yourself.

3 – Dealing With Your Past Wounds

If you have ever been really hurt by someone from your past, you know what it means to deal with those past wounds. Although you may not have dealt with those old wounds yet or have not forgiven the people in your past yet, maybe the time is now. If you find yourself stuck with old resentments, scars, and pain that someone you used to love has caused you, it is time to forgive them and let it go. Holding on to these old wounds will just eat you up inside and life will be bad for you now and in the future.

4 – Accept the Place Your Life is at Now

There are some things you can’t change in your life. For example, if you have always wanted children but you have a medical condition that causes infertility, instead of feeling sorry for yourself, knowing you can’t change it and that you gave it your best shot at trying, let it go and accept where you are now in your life. Be happy with what you have and don’t worry about what you don’t have. Maybe you weren’t meant to have children after all. If you have stepchildren, be thankful for them and accept everything in your life for what it is now. Doing this will make you a happy person and will help you to learn to love yourself.

Once you have done these things, you will be in a place where you can finally love yourself, love others, and be loved by others all unconditionally.

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When it comes to trying to determine a definition of sexual health, it can be a hard thing to do. The reason for this is because every person is different and their sexual health is just as different as they are. Although some people believe that being sexually healthy means staying clean from sexually transmitted diseases and unplanned pregnancy, these factors are not the only things that keep a person from being and staying sexually healthy. There are more ways to stay healthy sexually.

However, preventing sexual diseases and preventing pregnancies are good ways to stay sexually healthy. It is worth mentioning this more than once to keep people from getting sexual diseases and preventing young teens from getting pregnant.

So, Just What is Sexual Health?

According to the American Sexual Health Association, sexual health is embracing your sexuality throughout your life. It also means enjoying your sexuality throughout your life. However, there is more to it than just that. ASHA says that sexual health also means:

• To understand and keep in mind that sex is a natural part of life and there is more to sex than just sexual behavior.
• Respecting and realizing that we all share the same sexual rights.
• Having the access you need for sexual education, sexual health, and sexual care.
• Making the effort to prevent unwanted pregnancies and STDs but knowing how to get the treatment and care you need if they do happen.
• Being able to enjoy sex and intimacy when you want to.
• The ability to speak up about your sexual health with your partner(s) and health care providers.

Although being sexually healthy means to have safe sex to prevent diseases and pregnancy, you also need to remain positive and keep all of the above in mind when thinking about your sexual health.

It is important to understand that you should be able to speak up about your thoughts and feelings about your sexual health, desires, and the intimacy you share with your partner(s). It is also a good idea to ensure you speak to your doctor about how you feel about your sexual health.

What if I don’t Want Sex?

Having sex with your partner(s) is a natural part of life and everyone desires it at one or more times in their lives. Some people, more than others. However, if you don’t want sex, you need to speak to your doctor to determine the problem causing this. You are a normal person, don’t think you aren’t because you are not the only one that goes through the problem of not having the desire to have sex. However, something is causing this in your life. It could be a trauma that happened in your life such as a sexual assault.

If you don’t want sex very often or not at all, it could also be the medication you are on. Many different medications, prescribed or not, can cause loss of libido. If this is the case, your doctor will help you find a solution to your problem.

Speak to your partner too. Let them know there is something wrong and you are going to get the help you need to ensure you will be able to desire sex again. Speak up as much as you can. No one can read your mind!

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Having a healthy relationship is something everyone wants to have. It is something everyone deserves to have. No one wants to have a toxic relationship with abuse or neglect. No one deserves that either. This is why you need to know the requirements of a healthy relationship. Here are a few things you need to have in order to have a healthy relationship that will last for a long time.

1 – Self-Love

First, before you can have a healthy relationship, you need to love yourself before you can love anyone else or be loved by anyone else. You need to believe in yourself and nurture yourself as much as you can. Loving yourself can also make you stronger and being strong can lead to a healthy relationship that is full of love.

2 – Trust in One Another

The next thing you need to have a healthy relationship is to have trust in the person you are with. They have to be able to trust you too. This means being open and truthful with them and they you, about everything from the beginning. Without trust in one another, you don’t have a relationship.

3 – Honesty

This goes hand-in-hand with trust, but it is something worth mentioning anyway. You should always be open and honest with your partner to have the healthy relationship you have always dreamed of and deserve to have. From the very beginning, as long as you are honest with each other, you will trust each other always and this leads to a healthy and a very happy relationship for you both.

4 – Communication With Each Other

Make sure the line of communication is open with each of you. Tell them everything and talk about everything with them and they will do the same with you and for you. Having an open line of communication whether it is face-to-face, on the phone often, or online, or even in letters, will open up the future for you both to have a great relationship with each other.

5 – Connect with Each Other

Connecting with each other instantly is something that comes with true happiness in a healthy relationship. If you connect instantly, everything else will fall into place like it should. Make sure you are always connected with each other in some way. This also goes in place with communication. The reason for this is because it is easy to get wrapped up in the busy lifestyles that we all have that if we are not connected all the time with those we are in a relationship, something can come around and instantly tear us apart. Some ways to be connected with each other is by messaging each other through texts, talking on the phone, or sending each other emails. Stop and take five minutes out of your busy day and connect with your partner.

Once you understand these requirements for a healthy relationship, and you put them altogether, you won’t just have a healthy relationship, but a happy one as well.

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Sex is a good thing. It is not only good for your health, but it is good for keeping a healthy and happy relationship going. Sex is more enjoyable with someone you love. Although having sex is truly good for your emotional well-being and physical well-being for both you and your partner, there are certain rules to keep in mind before having it or during it. Here are four things you should always do during sex.

Make Sure You Want to Have Sex Before You Start

If you are simply not in the mood for it or something else is making you not want to have sex with your partner, you won’t enjoy it at all. Make sure the both of you are on the same page before having sex so you will always enjoy having great sex together.

Ask Yourself Which Sexual Positions You Want to Try and Which Ones are Off-Limits

Ask yourself which sexual positions you are willing to try with your partner. Let them know before you start which ones you want to try and which ones you don’t want to try. Being open and honest with your partner from the beginning before sex is a great way to not only enjoy it together but will make your relationship stronger.

Agree That Sex Doesn’t Have to be Time Consuming

Agreeing with each other that your sexual experiences together don’t have to be a long time consuming experience will allow you to free yourself to have a quickie if you prefer. Quickies are perfect for couples who work every day and who have kids and don’t have time every time they have sex to extend it for as long as possible. Quickies can be romantic too!

Accept the Fact That Neither of You Have to Have an Orgasm Every Time

Accepting the fact that neither of you have to have an orgasm every time will allow you to free yourself to enjoy sex with your partner more. You really don’t have to have one every single time to have fun together during the sexual experience. As long as you are enjoying each other’s company, that is all that really matters.

Keep the Communication Going Always

One thing that is very important when having sex with your partner is to keep the communication going all the time. Talk to your partner about what you want during sex and listen to what they want too. This will allow you to not only bond closer together but to enjoy the sexual experience more often. You never want to keep anything from your partner when it comes to sex. Communication is one of the important keys to enjoying sex more and having a good and long lasting relationship.

By keeping these five things and more you can probably think of in mind of what you should always do during sex, you should always have a great sexual experience with your partner. Make sure to always trust each other as well.

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They say that loving yourself can improve your relationships. However, you need to know self-worth before you can give worth to others. There are ways you can know that you love yourself besides saying it to yourself every day. Here are some tips on how to improve yourself to improve your relationships.

Approve of Yourself

Don’t keep seeking approval from others. They will approve of what you are doing at first and won’t mind it at first either but after a while, they will start getting tired of having to approve of everything you do just to make you happy. You need to approve of yourself and the things you do on your own before you can make anyone else happy to be around you.

Give to Others

You don’t want to just take for yourself and not share what you take with others. Not only giving to others makes them happy but it will make you happy because they are happy. And, you can’t truly be happy with yourself unless you make others happy as well.

Reach Your Own Goals

When wanting to improve your relationships with other people, you want to reach the goals you set for yourself. By doing this, you are making them happy for you, for themselves, and they will be proud to be in a relationship with you.

Become Fit and Stay Fit and Healthy

You can do this by exercising on a daily basis and eating the right kinds of foods. The only way to improve your relationships is if they see that you are trying to improve yourself too in a healthy way. Don’t ever skip the exercises no matter how you feel because exercising makes you feel better anyway. Don’t skip meals because this will make you feel worse. You will also want to get a good night’s sleep too. Go to bed at the same time every night and wake up at the same time every morning.

Keep Yourself Clean on a Daily Basis

This means practicing proper hygiene. Get in the show every morning or every night, brush your teeth three times a day and in between meals, and keep your face and hair clean. Once those who you are in a relationship with see that you are keeping yourself up every day, they will want to be around you more.

Be Creative

Make something special for that special someone in your life. Be creative with it and make them something, not just from your heart, but something they will absolutely love. Being creative with what you made for them will also make them want to be around you more.

Be Aware of Yourself

Be aware of who you are and what you mean to the people in your life. Know that they love you for who you are and they always will. Always know your own worth and they will want to be around you more for this.

Once you improve yourself personally, you will definitely improve the close relationships you are in.

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